Avoidant Confronts an Anxiously Attached Person

This is the moment we both used to run from. 😳 In our 2nd Podcast Episode, Gabriel (formerly avoidant) turns the tables and confronts Karolina (formerly anxious) about the behaviors that used to put their relationship into question: the emotional overwhelm, the constant need for reassurance, the pushing for closeness, and the panic when space was needed. We get real about what it was like for Gabriel to feel cornered and misunderstood, and for Karolina to feel desperate for connection and terrified of being abandoned. If you have ever been on the receiving end of anxious behaviors or felt guilty for needing space, you are going to see yourself all over this. We are unpacking the frantic texting, the fear of abandonment, the guilt-trips, and the heartbreaking stories underneath it all. To be clear, this is not about blaming either side, it's about understanding how anxious emotional survival strategies can look like "neediness" on the surface, but underneath, it is survival mode. ▶️ WATCH NEXT: We flipped the script where Karolina (anxious) confronts Gabriel (avoidant) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhpl96zW5vc&list=PL5uNYeU_tJpIFUiuuz01-U06jKn9TmJUi&index=2 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction 01:25 What is an anxious attachment style? 02:05 Why anxious & avoidant choose each other 03:57 What happens when avoidants are ready to commit? 05:33 What happens when anxious become more reserved? 06:09 What triggers anxiety/clinginess in anxious people? 08:19 Avoidants don't know how to deal with their partners anxiety 10:25 Anxious & avoidants have different pacing 12:23 Desperation can make anxious people cross boundaries 16:23 Anxious people have an easier time asking for help 17:54 Anxious will cross boundaries & then make it right 19:48 Avoidants blindspot for anxious people's power games 21:37 Anxious people pushing can benefit avoidants 23:40 Pushing too much will push avoidants away though 25:20 Why anxious people have a hard time accepting a partners boundaries 26:48 The danger of imbalanced power 27:42 Anxious may not want to face that their partner has limits 29:04 Respecting boundaries can create the change anxious people desire 30:38 Anxious can be giving as a means of getting what they want 35:06 Both partners need equal control for a happy relationship 36:17 How to create a balanced power dynamic 37:41 The importance of being transparent about power games 38:56 Summary 40:37 Outro & questions PREFER TO LISTEN? 🎧 Audio Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2489248/follow LINKS 🌐 Website: https://www.simplytogether.co 👩‍❤️‍👨 Attach an Avoidant Program: https://www.simplytogether.co/attach-an-avoidant/ ❤️‍🩹 Ex Back Program: https://www.simplytogether.co/ex-back-program-selection/ 👩‍💻 Ex Back Coaching: https://www.simplytogether.co/ex-back-coaching-selection/