What is Codependency? | Are you Codependent? - Terri Cole

Do you constantly organize yourself around another person’s needs? Does their bad mood nullify your good mood? Do you try to control all situations? If you feel like your relationship is uneven, where one person takes the responsibility of fulfilling all of the needs for the other person, you could be operating in a codependent relationship. Are you or your partner endlessly trying to control the other person's behavior? Do you feel like you are merged together so that whatever is wrong in their life is also wrong in yours? Codependency is often a result of some kind of dysfunction in childhood, like lack of safety, having an alcoholic parent, being neglected, etc. In adulthood, codependents tend to take on the emotions and burdens of others - they want to control things when their partner comes home from a bad day because they also feel those negative emotions =as if the bad day happened to them or that they must fix it.- This essentially means codependents make OTHER people’s problems, THEIR problems. Codependency is not just in romantic relationships; you can be codependent with friends, siblings, and even your boss! Being in a codependent relationship is unhealthy and will ultimately leave you feeling unsatisfied. Constantly depending on another person for your own sense of well being and needing them to be happy so you can feel happy becomes exhausting. In this video all about Codependency, you will learn: -- How to Identify the Signs of a Codependent -- Where Codependency Comes From (Hint: Dysfunctional Family Systems) -- Behaviors of Partners in a Codependent Relationship -- How to Know if YOU Are Codependent To increase your understanding of codependency, check out the Symptoms of Codependency Checklist (http://terricole.pages.ontraport.net/codependency) to get more details on the behaviors of codependents so you can evaluate yourself and the relationships in your life. Knowledge is power when it comes to kicking codependent behavior. You deserve to be happy and healthy, which rarely happens in codependent relationships. Reacting to the other person becomes the main way of interacting which does not allow for an authentic response. A healthy relationship is interdependent where you count on each other for support but are allowed to be separate enough to have your own experiences. Drop me a comment here and let me know what codependent behaviors you have noticed in your life. TIME STAMPS: 0:00 - Introduction 0:50 - What does a codependent relationship look like? 2:22 - Where does codependency originate from? 5:50 - The over-functioning or high-functioning codependent 8:09 - Signs you might be codependent 17:23 - What healthy love looks like RELATED VIDEOS: Stop Auto-Accomodating, a Video for Empaths, Codependents, and Highly Sensitive People: https://youtu.be/TEtwpbNe-0U Is People Pleasing Wrecking Your Love Life?: https://youtu.be/xZLA3aMMoeU How to Draw Boundaries as an Empath or Codependent: https://youtu.be/_y7eY6WqSC4 How to Gently Heal Your Codependent Relationship: https://youtu.be/UFoTrJ6PjTc The Antidote to Overgiving: https://youtu.be/q_QFxAZVW9A ABOUT TERRI COLE: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. For over two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: https://www.terricole.com/ig Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm Newsletter: https://www.terricole.com/newsletter RESOURCES Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. _Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust._ #terricolerealloverevolution #codependencyrecovery #codependency #terricoleshow