Toxic Relationships? How Boundaries Can Save You. Robert Jackman & Rosenberg

In this YouTube video, Ross Rosenberg hosts psychotherapist Robert Jackman to discuss the essential topic of boundaries, including how to set them and the challenges individuals face. Robert highlights that many people, especially those who have experienced trauma or identify as codependent, struggle to understand and establish boundaries due to their upbringing in dysfunctional environments. This can lead to suppressed needs and diminished identities. Ross explains that boundaries reflect self-worth and stem from self-love and clarity about one’s needs. In contrast, those lacking self-love may view their boundaries negatively. Robert adds that trauma can create false beliefs about unworthiness, causing individuals to hesitate in expressing their needs. They also discuss how inherited boundary patterns from caregivers can result in dysfunctional behaviors like passive-aggressiveness. The speakers connect trauma to boundary-setting, noting that early experiences with narcissistic or codependent parents can make boundaries feel threatening. They stress the importance of healing from past traumas to reclaim one’s voice. They offer practical strategies for establishing healthy boundaries, emphasizing respect, reciprocity, and the need for effective communication. Throughout the conversation, Ross and Robert reinforce that boundaries are valid expressions of needs, not mere restrictions. Robert shares insights from his book, "The Courage to Set Healthy Boundaries," which provides practical exercises for navigating boundary issues. The video ultimately encourages viewers to explore their relationships and recognize the crucial role of boundaries in personal growth and emotional freedom.