Avoidant Attachment Is Destroying Your Intimacy | Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist

In this eye-opening video, attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith dives into the emotional chaos caused by avoidant attachment in relationships. If you’ve ever felt like you're “too much” or constantly chasing emotional closeness only to be met with cold withdrawal, this video will finally help you understand why — and what to do about it. Topics Covered: 👉 The emotional tug-of-war caused by avoidant partners 👉 What avoidant attachment really is and why it’s not your fault 👉 The neuroscience behind avoidant behavior and emotional distancing 👉 Key behavioral patterns of avoidant individuals (hot/cold, commitment resistance, overworking) 👉 The biological impact on your health from emotional and mental starvation 👉 Why avoidant people chase dopamine and how it sabotages intimacy 👉 How reinforcement loops keep you stuck in toxic dynamics 👉 How your attachment patterns are passed on to your children 👉 Why consistency feels boring but is essential for healing 👉 The damaging myth that “love will fix him” 👉 The toll avoidant dynamics take on intimacy, health, and overall life satisfaction 👉 Why avoidant partners pull away during stress and struggle to be vulnerable Avoidant attachment isn’t just a personality quirk—it’s a neurobiological pattern that damages emotional connection over time. But change is possible. Adam provides the insights and tools to help you break the painful cycle, reclaim your self-worth, and form the deeply connected relationship you deserve. Don’t let this pattern repeat in your life—or your children’s. If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love '83% Of Women Are Using Intimacy And Oxytocin Bonding Wrong'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/BzAHgNfMxLk 🛎️ Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE for more videos on attachment, relationships, and emotional intimacy. Subscribe to The Attachment Newsletter: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social The 4 Attachment Styles Guide - Free! 📥 https://adamlanesmith.com/the4attachments/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social Slaying Your Fear - A Book For People Who Grapple With Insecurity https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S33YGJZ Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ Chapters: 00:00:00 Understanding the Pains of Avoidant Attachment 00:04:33 Understanding Commitment Resistance and Emotional Shutdown 00:08:38 The Cycle of Avoidant Relationships and Health Risks 00:12:38 The Science of Intermittent Reinforcement and Attachment 00:16:50 Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle 00:21:04 Understanding Avoidant Behavior in Relationships 00:25:08 Understanding Avoidant Attachment in Men 00:29:20 Understanding Vasopressin and Oxytocin in Relationships 00:34:19 Building Emotional Intimacy with Avoidant Partners 00:37:41 Building Intimacy Through Oxytocin and Acts of Service 00:41:49 Understanding Avoidant and Anxious Relationship Dynamics 00:45:18 Building Emotional Connection for Relationship Success 00:49:23 Sharing Your Experiences with Avoidant Attachment