Trusting Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment | Being Well

In this special episode, @RickHanson and I explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. We start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. I introduce a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 1:00 Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others 4:25 An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable 9:55 Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility 14:15 Sticking up for yourself 19:05 Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless 24:15 Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment 29:40 Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others 34:30 Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal 40:10 Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world 47:40 Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity 54:20 Recap Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸 https://www.instagram.com/f.hanson