The Abandonment Loop: Why You Push Them Away

For information on 1-on-1 coaching: https://www.andrewvanhoff.com/coaching In this video we talk about what I call the abandonment loop: the vicious cycle in which the more we try to get people to like us, the more we subtly undermine our own inner authority. This cascades into us both pushing other people away from us (as we no longer have our own authentic energy to attract them) and sabotaging our own inner relationships with ourselves (because we are in a loop of denying our true selves in favor of what other people think) Let's talk about how this works, why it happens, and what we can do about it!