Signs Narcissist About to Discard, Devalue You

Signs of imminent devaluation and discard by the narcissist: Emotional absence, indifference, and coldness Affected “civility” Constant criticism and denigration Passive-aggression Unfavorable comparisons Setting you up for failure and misconduct Paranoid ideation and pathological jealousy Sudden secret actions (financial or romantic) Public disparagement and humiliation, also with common children Sex withholding or degradation Cessation of all joint activities, especially of a social nature Pervasive distrust and micromanagement   Discard reenacts unresolved separation phase. Individuation depends on devaluation (in order to preserve grandiosity and exit the shared fantasy) and externalization-projection (reversal of internalization-introjection). When either of these two processes fails, hoovering results. So, emotionally, discard precedes devaluation. The narcissist hangs on to his partner only in order to complete the devaluation. Devaluation resembles also the separation phase in adolescence: reactance (defiance), contempt, distancing, negative identity formation, approach-avoidance. Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3