Mel Robbins: The ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life-Changing Hack That 15M People Can’t Stop Talking About)

In this powerful conversation with Jay Shetty, Mel Robbins shares her groundbreaking Let Them Theory - a mindset tool that helps you identify what's in your control and what's not, instantly freeing you from stress and anxiety. From navigating difficult relationships and healing from heartbreak (with her research-backed 11-week rule) to understanding why adult friendships change after 25, Mel reveals practical wisdom that will transform how you show up in life. Learn how to stop giving your power away to others' opinions and behavior while focusing on the three things you can always control: your thoughts, your actions, and how you process your emotions. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free Monk Mode newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe In this interview, we discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:47 What is the “Let Them” Theory 04:40 The Significant Difference Between “Let Them” and “Let Me” 06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can’t Control 14:03 People Only Change if They Want to 21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be 26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy 35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love 42:12 Let People Gossip About It 46:34 Don’t Expect Too Much From Others 58:22 You Aren’t Unlovable, Let Them 01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It’s Their Truth 01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult? 01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the “Let Them” Theory Episode Resources: https://www.melrobbins.com/ https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ https://www.youtube.com/c/melrobbins https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002 https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/B0DFMZMKFJ/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=Rp7as&content-id=amzn1.sym.bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&pf_rd_p=bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&pf_rd_r=132-8121315-7594942&pd_rd_wg=OVMET&pd_rd_r=8ae51e79-e6c5-4904-8848-02949c09243c&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me