How Manipulators + Narcissists Use Fear, Obligation & Guilt to Control You - Terri Cole

How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you’ve never heard of FOG, you’re in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I’m breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible. Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists. Download the guide for this episode here: https://www.terricole.com/how-manipulators-and-narcissists-use-fear-obligation-and-guilt-guide How to safely leave an abusive relationship video: https://youtu.be/8AQEK62Jogs *Time Stamps* 0:00 - Introduction 2:06 - Susceptibility to manipulation 3:20 - Positive projection 4:33 - What is the FOG technique? 7:44 - Examples of FOG manipulation 13:08 - Origin of FOG 13:37 - How fear impacts us 15:43 - How to protect yourself 18:33 - A note on abuse *If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos* https://youtu.be/XOQDvsK5qcA - Beware of These Common Manipulation Tactics! https://youtu.be/K4lf--Y34xw - Spot Emotional Manipulation - A Narcissist's Favorite Tool https://youtu.be/fz9owuVN49k - How to Avoid Covert Manipulation + Control https://youtu.be/Rnjr10b-UZU - Stop Being Manipulated NOW! (For Empaths + Nice People) *About Terri Cole* Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ *Connect With Me* Instagram: https://terricole.com/ig Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm Newsletter: https://terricole.com/newsletter *Resources* Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. _Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust._ #terricoleshow #manipulationexposed #manipulation #narcissisticabuse